'Letting Go' (2 Parts)

Greetings Friends,

The time has come to close out this series on Heaven, Death, Dying and Letting Go.
My hope is that it has been helpful in some way to at least one person that has chosen to read any or part of it. 
There will be two (2) parts to this final 'Letting Go', post.

We all find it difficult to 'let go' of persons and things.  It might begin as we have a child and as they try to walk, we try to hold on to them.  Later in life, we have the 'empty nest syndrome' when our children leave home.  And, it is even more difficult to watch them marry and create a life of their own.  They have a sense of independence that we sometimes do not like.  They do/should 'cleave' to their sufficient other.  This is what all healthy parents want and at the same there is a hurt within us.  Perhaps, it is a selfish thought because there is a sense that they do not need us anymore. 
I, personally, do not feel this is the reason that they do not get in touch with their parents as often.  I feel it is a healthy choice and they are very busy and have a life to form, mold and live within their own 'boundaries'.  This is exactly the way God has designed His plan for children to grow into healthy and wholesome adults.  They will make better parents if/when they have children.  Do they need us as their parents? Absolutely!  Their needs have changed because they have growth into responsible adults.  When we treat and love them as our friends, the 'boundaries' will be healthier and the love will flow more freely. 

Now, let's look at 'Letting Go' in friendships.  Friends come and go and change. This is another difficult arena to understand.  My feelings are when one has a friend, we must not hold on to tightly.  Remember the story of the 'bird in the hand'?  When a person wanted to keep the bird all to itself, it held on too tightly, and it crushed the bird to death.  
Friendships are treasures to enjoy, share with freedom and respect one another.  This is my feeling and the meaning of a true friendship.  Sometimes, friendships are totally misunderstood.  And, there are different types of friendships.  'Life has a way of changing events.  The 'gift' of friendship is golden when one can be separated in distance and time and in one phone call connect as if they were never separated.  I feel this is a 'true friendship' to treasure.  Gifts from God, indeed.
'Letting Go' and gently respecting 'boundaries' in friendships is hard but necessary for true friendships to flow in a healthy fashion.

'Letting Go' in the aging process can be tricky. I feel it can reveal the true vanity in oneself and/or self pride that can get in the way of our joy and happiness.  We work most of our adult lives in some fashion. This can be in a 'work place environment' or as a 'stay at home wife and homemaker'.  Either position that we have chosen, there comes a time to reflect, refocus and make changes in our life style.  And, if/when we do not change in this aging process, 'Time' in our life and living has a way of doing it for us.  The better thought and choice is to make the change for the better. One that will give us one of pleasure and contentment as we gradually and gracefully walk this journey of aging and 'Letting Go'. 

Our 'golden years' should be 'our pleasant years' to have more time and choices to relax and enjoy the things that we couldn't in our working years.  Our society has had a way of putting 'a number' to our; 'end of time days'.  How morbid is that?  In some ways, if we are not proactive in our thinking, we can drift into this same mold.  Please do not do this, for if/when we do; we will be the losers of priceless quality time and joy that we can experience for many years.  May we remember this as we try 'Letting Go' more gently and peaceful in our 'golden years'. 

Part 2 will conclude our Series on 'Heaven, Death, Dying and Letting Go'.  'Letting Go' can be a wonderful discovery as we focus on 'A Call to Love'. 

'Letting Go-let it go 'Gently' ,
Let it 'Flow Freely'

Until next time
God Bless
Doris